Have you gotten your Oil Change?

I know, I know, I’m supposed to focus on health, yet here I am asking if you've had an oil change. Last week, I was listening to a podcast, as I often do. Instead of using the term self-care or self-love, the guest used the word self-maintenance. He mentioned that more people, especially men, can relate to self-maintenance over self-care or self-love. I must admit, even I find self-maintenance more relatable than self-care, as the latter seems vague. Most people understand the concept of getting an oil change. However, I had a college classmate who didn’t know vehicles needed oil changes. Her caring father always handled it for her, so it wasn’t on her to-do list. One day while driving, her car started smoking, and she discovered she had damaged her engine. Most of us know we should change our vehicle's oil (unless you have an EV) after a certain number of miles. Electric vehicles still require regular maintenance, including battery care, tire rotations, and software updates to function efficiently. If we invest that much effort into something like a vehicle, which the average person keeps for 8-12 years, how much more should we invest in ourselves? A lifetime investment!

The investment I’m referring to involves the body, which is crucial. Moreover, it involves investing in the mind and spirit. It’s reported that 75%-90% of doctor visits are due to or rooted in stress. This means I could be getting proper nutrition, rest, and exercise, yet still experience illness. Why?

Questions to consider:

• Am I ignoring my feelings?

• Are there relationships I need to end or redefine?

• Am I fulfilling my purpose?

• Am I being heard? Seen?

• Am I saying yes when I really want to and need to say no?

  
  

The book “When the Body Says No” by Gabor Mate addresses this issue directly. It’s a book I often revisit. While I could offer generic suggestions on how to apply self-maintenance in your life—and I will—there’s a part of me that wants you to reflect on what that looks like for you, as it will differ for each of us.

7 Ideas for Redefining Boundaries & Managing Stress

1. Prioritize Time for Yourself

Schedule "Me Time": Set aside dedicated time for activities that recharge you, whether it’s reading, journaling, walking, or simply sitting in silence.

Digital Detox: Unplug from screens for a set period each day to reduce stress and reconnect with yourself.

2. Redefine Relationships

Create Clear Boundaries: Establish boundaries with people and situations that drain your energy, whether it’s saying "no" or limiting time spent with certain individuals.

Communicate Your Needs: Open up to those close to you about what you need, especially when it comes to space or emotional support.

3. Practice Stress-Reduction Techniques

Mindful Breathing: Try exercises like 4-7-8 breathing to help lower cortisol levels and bring your nervous system back into balance.

Meditation or Guided Visualization: Use meditation to calm the mind and engage in guided imagery to mentally transport yourself to a peaceful place.

4. Listen to Your Body

Daily Check-ins: Pay attention to how your body feels each day. Address any areas of discomfort before they turn into bigger issues.

Movement: Incorporate gentle, stress-relieving exercises like yoga, stretching, or light cardio to release endorphins and ease tension.

5. Reassess Your Priorities

Evaluate What Truly Matters: Reflect on where you’re investing your time and energy. Are your activities aligned with your core values?

Say No More Often: Practice the art of saying "no" when necessary to prevent burnout and maintain your mental clarity.

6. Regular Reflection

Journaling for Clarity: Writing about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences helps you process emotional tension and gain insight into your needs.

Ask Yourself Powerful Questions: Reflect on deep questions like, Am I feeling fulfilled? and What does honoring my boundaries look like?

7. Embrace Rest

Sleep Hygiene: Prioritize quality sleep by creating a calming bedtime routine and reducing screen time before bed.

Take Breaks: During the day, take short breaks to reset your mind and body, even if it’s just for a few minutes.

Self-maintenance isn’t just about nourishing your body—it’s about caring for your mind and spirit, too. By actively setting boundaries, managing stress, and making time for reflection, you are investing in yourself in ways that lead to a richer, more balanced life. Just as you maintain your car to keep it running smoothly, taking time to address your emotional, physical, and mental needs will help you operate at your best. Remember, this is an ongoing process, and the more you prioritize self-maintenance, the more equipped you’ll be to live a fulfilling, resilient life.

Until Next Time,

Auspria